The West has had its sexual revolution fever; in the Former Soviet Union, it’s in the phase of Revolutionary Government established. Both Vanguard and Reaction can be found among young Russian women seeking a relationship, whom you can meet in the living streets and online.
Commercial advertisements, the society’s magnifying mirror, exploit sexuality shamelessly, as if a communication standard (like, girl sees boy, and they rush at each other). This evokes following reactions:
Older people. – How silly / disgraceful!
Boys of all ages. – Yeah! Party time! C’mon, baby! Go where? Bye, baby. C’mon, sweetie! Wooow!
Girls. – We have a big choice of behavior patterns, and a little choice of worthy males. What shall we do?
Before I quote the options, I should make an observation that the charms arms race is self-inflating to no good.
1. Men are growing thicker skins to save themselves from violent arousal; women go into still sharper thrills to get through the resistance; the guys have to choose between impotence and assault. A couple of centuries ago, one could get hard when shown an ankle; today’s men yawn in strip bars.
2. Whereas lower-life Russian men are simply worthless, lower-life women strive like hex to hunt up, and go dumping with all the indecency of under-culture, despair and cynical gold-digging. This moulds a clownish image of womenhood in men’s perception, and spoils initially deserving men to the bone.
Now the main Russian women’s attitudes, often combined.
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Dress Code & Image
- I agree that body is my main [and only] asset, and / or men’s prime [and only] interest. I must promote it fervently to win the competition.
- No one notices a nuclear scientist unless she’s blonde 90-60-90. I am kind, honest, spirited, interesting, etc., AND hot as well!
- I am a proud lady waiting for my gentleman. Relaxed elegance, sporty, businesslike or innocent look are sexiest.
- I should look one, to get the cream of the cream.
- I just like to be admired. Nothing personal…
- I stick to Fashion (whatever). Women dress for the eyes of other women. And suppose Men should appreciate it, too.
- Playing with my looks is an essential way of being a woman. I highlight and edit what I like to see in the mirror. I celebrate the daily creativity of expressing myself.
- Relax, guys! Beauty is art for the art’s sake!
- Looking dull is an offense against my own dignity or detriment to the world.
More about Beauty = Sexiness standard: “Reason” (I), “Value” (II)
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Accessibility
- I must be easy so that to hold him.
- I must be hard to gain so that to hold him.
- My body is my own thing, my inner comfort is my measure. If I feel instant chemistry, well hex why not? If I linger, slow down, dear.
- You should gain my love to get the body.
- You were admitted to my body – so what? Try to gain my love, THIS is the challenge!
- Sexual experience makes a good lover.
- Why peddle with another man unless he Could Likely Be a Future?
- I pin my hopes on every [optional qualification] man.
- I’m VERY choiceful.
- I just have normal speed of getting close with people, where are you all rushing and pushing?
- Sex is [my self-assertion] / [loss of man's respect] / [device] / [for married people] / …
- Getting married without chemistry and sexual compatibility is lunacy. And it takes more than one test drive!
- Getting married only on chemistry and sexual compatibility is lunacy. And it takes quite a warranty period of mutual driving and maintenance in all conditions!
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But before you have the chance to find this out with a real lady, you probably pass the photo “level”. At this stage, many temptations occur, terrific and even terrifying to an unpampered eye.
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There’s much difference in the degrees and styles of exposure in Eastern online dating women’s photos, and in the intent behind it. Speaking abstractly, the whole class of “provocative showcase” girls may be divided into the following groups:
* The unaware. Just taking the pervading fashion for an imperative, to the sheer leer of “woodwork pervs”. Silly babes with backwood ways. May be good and kind, but need a true Professor Higgins to become “fair ladies”. Instead, often contribute to the slave trafficking and the horror stats of “he kept her in the barn…”
Frequent attributes: flowers; teddybears; assumed “fatality” and “sophistication”.
* The manipulative. Selling out of their skins to get abroad, and / or just to skim their wooers.
Frequent features: naughty, evil or arrogant expression, domination / submission allusions. Flowers and artifacts are also often used demonstratively.
* The unthinking.
* The declarative. Intending to establish mutual awareness of each other’s physiques in good faith and fair dealing.
Styles: swimsuit (bikini), open tops, fitness wear. Counting on your [decent!] beach / sport photos in exchange.
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Natalia’s Advice:
Normal: Tight-fitting clothes, low necklines, cleavage shirts, slit skirts; transparent sleeves if festive; in summer, or at refined events – bare backs and shoulders, spaghetti tops. Minis: in photos; in real life – when in fashion, and not too undressed along the total girl’s height (otherwise, vulgar). Shorts, beach wear: in photos; in real life – at resorts (same). Bootcut pants – still overworn – when there’s no cold hazard (and if no lingerie stands out).
- Dance clubs admit verry brave outfits (still, a more casual look is a safer-bet pick.)
Tolerable (with your ears cocked): Transparent clothes (on condition that nipples and bottoms don’t shine through). Swimsuit shot indoors (bad manner). Draperies in photos (usually artsy tissues).
- LOL, I also saw some beach towels – ONE even looked accurate and braved with good humor. But why the hex show your laundry to the world?
Think-twice alerts: Photos in lingerie uncovered, or with elements of nudity, received in the course of long correspondence.
- If you see such kind of pics in a profile, rule it out at once.
Some of your worst expectations: Inconsistency – boots with hot weather wear and gowns, bare skin in the cold. Artifice -rhinestones, long nails, pumped lips, tropical skin, bleached hair (variants: scorching red or blacker-than-black). Much pink.
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“Conservative” can cost you more money and/or stretching… with more satisfaction
guaranteedworth experiencing. Be that a “poor but honest girl” or an exclusive courtesan.
Enjoy yourselves!
Sincerely,
© Comrade Natalia
(…please link to this page when using some information from it! ;)
January 16, 2007 at 2:00 pm
A comment about casual sex.
I happen to see, and especially read & hear girls (and as much men, if not more) who have abandoned the idea of letting love into their lives, and blaming the world for no more love existing, other than in songs and films, “the propaganda of unrealistic dreams”.
They even feel comfortable in their light-hearted intimophobia, but it’s a homeostasis of a person drinking coffee not to fall asleep with the soporific they are taking simultaneously. This is exactly what “sex without love” is. Not to Let Yourself and Make the Other Feel As “Too” Good as Something Real.
Less satisfaction – more partners – still less satisfaction.
Esoterically, there is no bond like sex. Any sex. (Any contact, any gender). A common egregor is born. The term needs long explanation, so let’s put it as simplistic as “common fate”. Energies are exchanged, just like salivae and microflorae. You inherit something from the other – how good is it? You leave part of yourself in the other.
You get nostalgia for him/her, whatever trifler, and get someone’s trace jealousy claiming you. You are no more objective to some far person, with specific preference and specific grudge against. Yet you refrain from getting familiar, for the Indecency of Exploring and the Illusion of Closeness.
You have to live with your roots “there”, his/her roots inside you. Or weed them out – and these parts of you – your feelings, thoughts, aura, soul, spirit – tear and perish. Brrrrrr.
Poor unthinking women. Poor unthinking men.
Happily, enough people remain and reappear preserving not just their “vulnerability against love”, but hearts and bodies for “Something Real”. The most quoted verse of Omar Khayyam over here is about “better starve than eat scramble” (almost yoga ;))
January 16, 2007 at 10:51 pm
Life without love barely puts us above animal…and then we question the decline of civilization?
February 27, 2007 at 2:06 pm
For a visual analysis, watch here:
http://russianwomen.wordpress.com/2007/02/10/disco-inferno-photos-20/#comment-7317
Please keep in mind that “dress code” is nothing without “face control”, but regular features don’t necessarily mean fine nature. Especially if you feel starved for female beauty. ;)
#2 is a stage dancer on an advertisement dance. For a stage costume, this is almost modest! For real life, even street walkers don’t stoop to this length of shorts. Natalia’s Rule: the more ham exposure, the less lady inside.
Frivolously young Russian girls have been struggling with their mothers to shake the world with mid-thigh skirts. Maturity brings the hem to somewhere around the knee.
#3: open tops are normal for summer or dance. Particularly when she is going out with her guy. (Oops, bad luck!) Otherwise I’d wince at a bare back in the winter. And if you offered me to choose between combining leopard with pink or being labeled a snob, I just hope that the “Snob” t-shirt is small enough.
Pinks, zooprints and roses are touchstones of taste. Too “ambitious” to tolerate other patterns, each can be royal or vulgar, depending on the manufacturer’s mastery.
#1 is dressed Chaste as for disco. Chaster could be but a long-sleeved “T” or a shirt. Half girls over here don’t dress to knock down. They aint sex bombs, they are snipers. Mainly in the good sense.
Snug Ts, smart shirts, turtlenecks, pullovers, jackets with jeans / trunks are “cultural norm” daily uniform. Skirts depend on the fashion trends (derived from Vogue, or normal women’s reading, or Turkish & Chinese imports – choose one). Dresses, loose wear and lavish skirts promise an interesting personality.
And to add to the approach-denial discussion with a Russian joke…
- Oh, watch that hottie! Have you laid her?
- No.
- Me neither.
(Both) WHAT A WHORE!
April 11, 2008 at 10:10 pm
Another comment on the sexual strategies & attitudes outlined above. To discuss further, welcome back to this page.