Adapting your English to her Russian (or Ukrainian)

Whether you are lucky to deal with a girl who speaks any English, or misfortunate to use a machine translator, these 5 rules would save you and your dates or correspondents a bazillion of nerve cells. The difference in grammars and lexicons may not only prevent understanding, but create quite offensive effects in interpretation.

The Bride Vendetta: How to Make a Russian Girl “Kill Bill”

Read prior to speaking love, appointing visits, and getting too many women! ) Risks range from bad international record to physical revenge. Just don’t ask me to spill the sources of Insider Information translated…

Virgin Village & Smalltown vs. Babylon City? Russian Brides Background Effect

To a Western man searching Russia / Ukraine for unspoiled virtue, health, high moral values, sound family background, top model beauty, unconditional love, and proper mothering of his children, - hinterland is the last area to seek a wife. Post-Soviet specifics of economy and mentality contradict American-based reasoning on the percentage of “sound” or “flawed” women in small communities, of “deserving” or “evil” girls who relocate upscale, and of “fine” or “filthy” city-borns.

A keen observer can discern a range of more specific social types. A psychologist would consider the entire combination of individual factors to make a right match. And it takes a native to detect ancestry & upbringing by manners, speech, style, even by facial features. But let’s now clarify the first-approximation guidelines.

How do major factors of origin affect a Russian or Ukrainian woman’s character? What marriage behavior can a stranger forecast by them?

Here are some trends you need to know. Feels bad to spill – and to conceal.

First mention & counter-arguments

Russian Women’s Professions and Roles Translated: Antipodes to Typical Western Concepts

May not different social realities, giving different meanings to similar words, prevent a viable international relationship or create tensions on the way to one.

“Working girl”, for starters, is “what you’ve thought” only in the Western reading. In Russian, emphasizing work means serious attitude to life (yet not obsession with career – the very word given some negative connotation since the Russian Empire, and much stronger in the Soviet Union).

“Less Talk, More Meaning”: Russian Women’s Reason – User’s Guide

Responding to discussion on this must-read by Master GL, here’s an overview of, errm, “Russian Woman (TM) Communicator”, from home production to foreign handling.

Beg your tolerance to my debris of radioelectronics )

• Childhood: Wired as Hi-Fidelity

The first thing that little children are taught here, is to speak truth.

Scam or Real? First visit to a Russian woman: Who Where

On comment 42 to this post at GL’s. More on scam schemes here

Hi Rob, I can imagine your confusion. This letter appears controversial as well as authentic. Here are some thoughts I got…

First, considerations natural from a woman’s viewpoint, that usually scare men.

“Bad” Body Language: the Filthiest Post on Russian Women & Western Men Interaction

Even if your could-be-bride is a fan of Mr. Bean, – mimicking his manners won’t make you her hero. In the basics of Russian cultivation, grimaces and physiological manifestations fall under certain censorship.

Which makes this post important beyond romantic contacts. However polished the stranger may be…

Slavic norms of public / interpersonal conduct allow much less natural motions than accustomed abroad (especially in America). Some may be judged as, without much exaggeration, crime against civility! And civility’s one of the first virtues which Foreign Men are given credit for.

Swear a Sure Way to Screw a Relationship with a Russian Woman

…barely awarely. Just with routine American vocabulary. I mean vulgarisms. Words stemming from the pelvic area or loo, such fu(n)kin‘ crap not worth a rat’s ass. Ain’t “anatomy discrimination”: the rest of the body is subject to non-verbal control (see the following post).

Oscar Wilde said, “A gentleman is never unintentionally rude”. A Russian joke extends: “A gentleman would always call a cat a cat, even if he’s stumbled against it and fell down.” And one more: “Surprisingly, researches have proven that blondes prefer gentlemen, too.”

Russian Inaccuracy and the Order of Magnitude, or Chocolate as Crime

West vs. East is the clash of Rules vs. Context. Who overdares? Eurasia.

• Exercise 1. Is there anything wrong about these statements?

1. “If I can’t rely on you with small things, how can I trust you with big things.”

High Heels and Fancy Women: Russian Stories with Morals

On beauty, prostitutes, good women, gender roles, consumerism and compensation – through the cultural difference of Former Soviet Union countries

• Story 1

I’ve just watched a TV show “Beauty Factory (Made in Ukraine)”, where they take “visually challenged” women and improve their lives with surgery, stylist crafts, psychology backup. Boyfriends fall on their knees to make proposals, bosses promote, children start listening to the Fairy agape… This time even the show team couldn’t hold tears at the happy end, neither could I…

How to Win a Beautiful Russian Woman: The Different Standard and the Art of Compliment

You find her hot and this fact is welcome in her culture. Shall you express utter admiration? Answer: No. When all the kin is bred beautiful, and smart, it’s a minefield playground!

That foreign worship of Slav looks is like Indians’ shock at White Man and his utensils. It is rather uncomfortable to be deified for what has been ordinary. On the other part, it’s rather miserable to take occasional scrap for treasures. And rather dangerous to drink “fire water” after generations of abstinence.

Safe Love with Their Ears (Do NLP & Seduction techniques work with Russian Women?)

Oh, wanna superweapon? In all plots it lacks the user warning: Strikes Back. If you won her heart, get hitched – or blacklisted, with all your aural Kama Sutra reduced to the crass definition “Brainf***er”.

Well, far before this prospect, many boys plod into the puddle just trying to sway the sword.

10 More Golden Rules for Advanced First-Time Dating International

A link to send Russian & Western online friends ;)

• 1. If something feels like offending you, it was NOT intended to.

Joseph calls it “Girfriend Rule #1”, I call it “Disclaimer”. Always mind the cultural and linguistic differences, added to individual styles!

“Forbidden Words” Top 10: Messages and Self-Descriptions Not Recommendable as to get you an “Ideal Partner”

These innocent phrases in a profile, email, talk (yours or hers) – resemble customary markers of “Co-Dependency” infection (as opposed to wholesome Mutual Treasuring). Keep cool, as you present yourself or hear that woman doing so! Are they mere figures of speech, or configurations of thinking?

10 Commandments of Dating Russian Women (marriage-wise): Ultimate Edition, Compiled, Revised, Updated & Restored

“Needless for those who’ve understood, useless for those who won’t”…

As the faith, so the reward… World is Mirror, life is what we make & let done with it… He who thinks prostitutes, gets prostitutes. He who thinks noble, gets the noble.

People seem to savor new recipes of food for thought: self-toothed out of mineral tablets, or squeezed, extracted and served with a straw in an occasion-specific glass. So may I entertain you with one more cocktail of playful spirits.

Chefs promise trouble if the vessel is not cleaned. Right. Enroll to this school of international dating, get blacklisted from heaven with virgin angels, and keep spitting into decent people’s borscht. Or listen to Aunt Natalia and take a chance… )

“Playboy” Advice & Fake Orgasms, or Is a Russian Woman a Trustworthy Guide to Russian Ladies

Guys’ eyes are valuable mirrors. But a Russian Girl ™ can bewitch any guy… not another Russian Girl ™. What may let – and make – the latter help, and whom?

Holidays Wishes, Miracles, New Year Gifts from your Russian Fairy “Snow Girl”: an Agency for Introductions like none have seen before!

Jingle Bells! Time for making dreams & pleasant wishes come true for all good boys and girls. A special gift from Father Frost & Snow Maiden: a Place to Meet and Match, made Honest, Safe and Smart for you by Natalia and Joseph!

“Shocking” Statistics on Russian Women – I: Social Situation & Values

This is the overall picture that a local person can observe. A foreigner should keep in mind that “potential international brides” (women he would likely meet or notice) are a specific sampling, with their peculiarities and differences I’m trying to describe.

Beauty, the Russian Women’s Cult: A Moral Category and Value Added

“Beauty will Save the World!” To Russian (Ukrainian) women, it’s a slogan for high personal standards, as well as demands. Beauty is a valuable asset, precious to sustain as well.

Lady-Killing Dating Dress How: Russian Style for Western Men

A first-approximation glance from behind the Mirror of their Eyes…

Image is a big constituent of influence and initial perception in the Former Soviet Union, epitomized in face control and dress code at some corporations, restaurants and clubs… outrivalled by the censorship of Russian Women’s X-ray microscopes.

One is “seen in by clothes, seen out by intelligence” as the Russian proverb goes. This manner reflects their National Intuitiveness as well as Vanity, mixing insight with futility and logical reasons with subconscience.

Here is a bit of first-aid, safe-bet advice to hype up Western, and foremost American, performance and output in dating Russian ladies, to show important qualities of taste, choicefulness, male power, based on self-and-mutual respect… and to not offer a dramatic contrast to a girl or woman that has taken so much effort to look pin-up, especially for you.

Also useful for posting & sending photos with online dating facilities.

Traditional-vs-Feminist Dispute: a Compromise by Russian Woman the Peacemaker )

“No matter what the feminist-wits do, they cannot alter NATURE. And if they try, primary selection will exert its force and suppress and exterminate these aberrations. Feminism is a societal aberration against NATURE.” (kzarz)

To agree with the general message, and dare on details…;)

Russian Princess Syndrom in a Russian Woman’s poetry

“Princess-in-Tower” way is a ponderable issue with Russian Women’s dating roles & love manners. It is timeless passive poise awaiting genuine courtship, arousing romantic instincts, and bashing hasteful lovermen. Also it may be concealing feelings like a prisoner under examination, with resistance and evasion ranging from movie-style joky grace to queer hostility.

You may be facing it for quite a long time, because there are no gaming games here. All our impersonal friendliness or protective skittishness evolve from the famous axiom that we Russian Women are a relationship-serious clan. What are the implications then?

Paradox Relationships in Paradox Society: Men & Women in Russia or Ukraine

Now you can finally outline and explain the paradoxes of this land, so astonishing to strangers! Watch the symbol of the Orthodox religion, fundamental to the Russian, Ukrainian, Belarus and largely Soviet culture that reaches from private desires to the order of government. A cross is like a reference frame stretched between the extremes, – contrasts at the ends of axes, varieties between, and balance in the intersection.

So whatever you wanted to know… Yes, every tiny peculiarity. Did you notice that the Orthodox Cross has buds on ends that make each branch crossed once more? ;) The posts below would show how major conditions of the region’s geography, economy and history have shaped the daily life of “Russian” people and their way of thinking.

Happy & Friendly ! ? Russian Ladies’ “Keep-the-Face” mentality

3 Key Rules of Russian Girls: Be Nice. Be Nice to Men. Be Nice to Strangers. No hypocrisy, – an attitude. Still more care and caution you should take, dealing with these beautiful Eastern women who smile so peacefully.

Rich Man and Russian Brides: Poor-Guy-Good-Girl Test Failed

Russian & Ukrainian media teem with plots of “Rich Men Disguised to Find True Love”; in reality, it’s no good way to outwit Hunter Girls and catch the Bliss Bird.

Fast-Find the Right-One Russian Bride Know-How Procedure

“There are no mistakes in life, just feedback”. Let us better feed by our gains! Here’s a time-saving and all-round efficient algorithm to manage the “Embarrass of Abundance“ (or “Paralysis of Choice”) in 5 steps and a single universal test.

Is There Feminism in Russia (Former Soviet Union)?

In the global village, Former Soviet women have access and exposure to all Western baits, long-banned and currently-imposed. Yet

Russian Girls to Unhappy Men: A Poisonous Remedy

When you are broken-hearted, angry or annoyed at women, disappointed with your marriage or unsatisfied with other things in life, it fancies so sweet to find consolation at the breast of some kind, patient, lively, thoughtful, interested, understanding beauty who believes in true love like you believe you do. And here we are the “Russian women” grown as Soothers, Healers and Supporters. What a promising prospect for an acute or chronic injured one… a prospect leading to nowhere… at best.

(DISCLAIMER: What I am hereinafter telling to a “sore” man, is vice versa applicable to “sore” women one can often meet among Russian brides, – with the only difference that women fancy hanging all their problems on a “strong shoulder” that a real gentleman is so longing to provide. And “baggage” is a red flag problem with a woman just like with a man. GL please drop me the link to your post quoting Arnold Schwarzenegger’s lecture to his fiancée!)

East + West > Marriage + Relationship > Psychology > Expert Counseling + Personal Secrets

Here he comes, passionate, intelligent and confident. We chat hours away, and then I see his inner boy. His shining armour is like chocolate’s foil to the teeth of some “bunny girl”. He’s about swording down princesses he takes for witches. Starving for human connection, orphaned from feminine care… And once again I turn Aunt AskNatalia.Ru to help one more soul rather than seek for the soul mate for myself. )

Thus began my e-counseling practice in psychology. Many times I felt blessed with friendship to a missioned professional analyst / therapist / coach lady I mention here and there as Dr. Tamara… as well as with my Ukrainian / Russian origin.

These Men have learnt stabbing their male rivals, juggling with big money, playing chess with the world, – yet feel lost at managing their personal lives. Yes, business and relationships are different disciplines, though not as incomparable as we are taught to think. But indeed, how should one operate in the world where definitions have fused?

“Manly” and “womanly” – “Western” and “Eastern” – “traditional” and “modern” – we are just too much alike… even though so different.

Luckily, Russian Women are seasoned soul-divers. ) Moreover, today’s generation of brides has been learning Men largely by foreign examples of. Which means, checking themselves through the eyes of foreign men – prevalently Western European and American.

How could it be?

The “Russian Woman” / “Russians” brand: Geography, Philosophy, Patriotism

Should I parenthesize “Russian” everywhere on this blog? Any Russian-bride-savvy knows this indication concerns several, mostly Eastern European, countries of the Former Soviet Union (FSU): Belarus, Russia, Ukraine (kin Slavonic / Slavic nations), to some extent the Baltic region (West-wise), Georgia and Kazakhstan (East-wise). What stands behind the “brand name” then?