Read prior to speaking love, appointing visits, and getting too many women! ) Risks range from bad international record to physical revenge. Just don’t ask me to spill the sources of Insider Information translated…
So different by styles, habits and characters, so alike by dreaming of love’s bliss… Here’s a gallery of most vivid female types – and their potential husbands. Call it a set of caricatures that street artists have been fudging anyplace and anytime, changing only markers, - but so far as this article is published in urban reading, let its author refrain from remorse.
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Ironically, matchmaking is the oldest way to marriage. Sage women or parents have done it since the dawn of humanity. Deliberate choice of life partner has grown into “Western” and “Russian” custom in c. XX, and still relies on social proof. Pondering on current divorce rates and the tragic vibe of known love stories, does third party assistance make sense? Let’s rationally weigh all pro’s and con’s (pun unintended…)
To a Western man searching Russia / Ukraine for unspoiled virtue, health, high moral values, sound family background, top model beauty, unconditional love, and proper mothering of his children, - hinterland is the last area to seek a wife. Post-Soviet specifics of economy and mentality contradict American-based reasoning on the percentage of “sound” or “flawed” women in small communities, of “deserving” or “evil” girls who relocate upscale, and of “fine” or “filthy” city-borns.
A keen observer can discern a range of more specific social types. A psychologist would consider the entire combination of individual factors to make a right match. And it takes a native to detect ancestry & upbringing by manners, speech, style, even by facial features. But let’s now clarify the first-approximation guidelines.
How do major factors of origin affect a Russian or Ukrainian woman’s character? What marriage behavior can a stranger forecast by them?
Here are some trends you need to know. Feels bad to spill - and to conceal.
Responding to discussion on this must-read by Master GL, here’s an overview of, errm, “Russian Woman (TM) Communicator”, from home production to foreign handling.
Beg your tolerance to my debris of radioelectronics )
The first thing that little children are taught here, is to speak truth. Read the rest of this entry »
On comment 42 to this post at GL’s. More on scam schemes here
Hi Rob, I can imagine your confusion. This letter appears controversial as well as authentic. Here are some thoughts I got…
First, considerations natural from a woman’s viewpoint, that usually scare men. Read the rest of this entry »
(Life stories and professional advice)
More than two people have to get along! A fact is easy to adopt; real Little Others take more time to love. When they feel it – are hostilities inevitable? How can the new stepfather or stepmother cope with a life-long challenge sooner?
Can happiness – this rare value in today’s world – be a discount offer?
Come ye bravest readers, praiseworthy for reckoning with East / West differences. Let’s find the common denominator for appreciating Dear Ones.
(Approved by my Western friend and business partner Joseph, whose Russian chapter of marital history dates back into the last century, - called on for competent male judgement on behalf of the successful and the thrifty.)
…barely awarely. Just with routine American vocabulary. I mean vulgarisms. Words stemming from the pelvic area or loo, such fu(n)kin‘ crap not worth a rat’s ass. Ain’t “anatomy discrimination”: the rest of the body is subject to non-verbal control (see the following post).
Oscar Wilde said, “A gentleman is never unintentionally rude”. A Russian joke extends: “A gentleman would always call a cat a cat, even if he’s stumbled against it and fell down.” And one more: “Surprisingly, researches have proven that blondes prefer gentlemen, too.”
Surprising stats: more wives than husbands in the FSU. Polygamy?! No, different attitudes to non-formalized cohabitation. A Russian poll revealed: of all partners living so, 92% women identify themselves as married, while 85% men keep feeling bachelors.
Ironically, Soviet people dub non-wed household-sharing unions with the legally illiterate title “civil marriage”, but scarcely guess that such relationships, throughout history, engender more or less of rights and obligations associated with the desired – or dreadful, as all jokes go – status of “legitimate spouses”.
Gentlemen, you’re gonna be more savvy than most locals! ;)
Discussion initiated here at GL’s
Well, in terms of Monty Python-esque samples, “Russians” and especially women are humorless.
On beauty, prostitutes, good women, gender roles, consumerism and compensation - through the cultural difference of Former Soviet Union countries
Story 1
I’ve just watched a TV show “Beauty Factory (Made in Ukraine)”, where they take “visually challenged” women and improve their lives with surgery, stylist crafts, psychology backup. Boyfriends fall on their knees to make proposals, bosses promote, children start listening to the Fairy agape… This time even the show team couldn’t hold tears at the happy end, neither could I…
Russian press loves to poll celebrities as same people, who have something to tell, fortified by the authority of their achievement and attraction. Here is the poll by one of the oldest popular newspapers “Arguments and Facts” on the occasion of the “International” Women’s Day March 8.
“What’s a Woman’s Happiness to you?”
A Russian pop song says that “Woman’s Happiness is to have the loved man near, and nothing else is needed.” It describes Read the rest of this entry »
You find her hot and this fact is welcome in her culture. Shall you express utter admiration? Answer: No. When all the kin is bred beautiful, and smart, it’s a minefield playground!
That foreign worship of Slav looks is like Indians’ shock at White Man and his utensils. It is rather uncomfortable to be deified for what has been ordinary. On the other part, it’s rather miserable to take occasional scrap for treasures. And rather dangerous to drink “fire water” after generations of abstinence. Read the rest of this entry »
Oh, wanna superweapon? In all plots it lacks the user warning: Strikes Back. If you won her heart, get hitched – or blacklisted, with all your aural Kama Sutra reduced to the crass definition “Brainf***er”.
Well, far before this prospect, many boys plod into the puddle just trying to sway the sword. Read the rest of this entry »
A link to send Russian & Western online friends ;)
Joseph calls it “Girfriend Rule #1”, I call it “Disclaimer”. Always mind the cultural and linguistic differences, added to individual styles!
These innocent phrases in a profile, email, talk (yours or hers) – resemble customary markers of “Co-Dependency” infection (as opposed to wholesome Mutual Treasuring). Keep cool, as you present yourself or hear that woman doing so! Are they mere figures of speech, or configurations of thinking?
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One could say “Even If This Were the Only Book”… Read the rest of this entry »
“Needless for those who’ve understood, useless for those who won’t”…
As the faith, so the reward… World is Mirror, life is what we make & let done with it… He who thinks prostitutes, gets prostitutes. He who thinks noble, gets the noble.
People seem to savor new recipes of food for thought: self-toothed out of mineral tablets, or squeezed, extracted and served with a straw in an occasion-specific glass. So may I entertain you with one more cocktail of playful spirits.
Chefs promise trouble if the vessel is not cleaned. Right. Enroll to this school of international dating, get blacklisted from heaven with virgin angels, and keep spitting into decent people’s borscht. Or listen to Aunt Natalia and take a chance… )
Guys’ eyes are valuable mirrors. But a Russian Girl ™ can bewitch any guy… not another Russian Girl ™. What may let - and make - the latter help, and whom? Read the rest of this entry »
“Now All Big Smart Boys don’t let us skin them – let us milk them.” Petty pay as you play, and then… you just didn’t match. Russian men call it “Dynamo”, meaning bad-faith “consummation”. What’s ironic is that the “normal” traditional Eastern dating, or e-dating, procedure begins the same way.
The difference is in the result… and in subtlest red flags on the way, which your good auld Natalia’s there to tell.
Greater irony is that man can even feel grateful for every moment of being “used”! These Special Russian Women.™
(Or it takes a special man to choose enlightenment against despair?)
Thank a client who authorized me to tell his story on one finest Dynamo machine business for Ukraine. It looked [almost] innocent for as long as two dozen letters. But “however long a rope weaves, it comes to an end”.
Another lesson inspired by a Clien’ts story (quoted courtesy of).
“First I want to say that in my heart I believe she’s genuine. I like her very much, and I haven’t approached her with suspicion, nor do I want to.
I happened to run across ["this forum"], where a bunch of guys were discussing – her! Her letters to one of them.
I’ve seen a couple scam girls’ emails. They’re pathetic and transparent, if you think about them with the big head. These are nothing like that. I’m so confused.
Once I start reading these scam sites, it’s so easy to think “Oh my god, what if this, what if that?” I read all of the posts there and quickly realized Read the rest of this entry »
Honestly, we Russian Women hail the US law on men’s police record disclosure. Just look with our eyes, like you can. In fact, it puts American daters a body ahead ALL other nationals! Read the rest of this entry »
Just one Google dig into Runet (Russian-language Internet) for mere stats on international divorce rate brought 34 600 sites and pages of serious research and personal experiences… Here are some molecules of this information, rather representative of the whole substance. Read the rest of this entry »
These notes address argument about Money vs. Satisfaction and City vs. Province, inspired with the question, whether Russian women are Worshipped or Depreciated at homeland, and if Western environment and Chivalry can “spoil” them. Original thread here at GL’s. Worth reading.
Russians say, “Not in money happiness is” (well, some jocularly add “but in its amount”), and right they are. Culture is what matters, - in all its meanings, including artistic sources of thought and pleasure, active folklore, patterns and manners of human relations, self-discipline, spiritual ideals and fulfilment,.. goals and values that money’s nothing more than a means for.
Pick the role of “Poor Thing’s Prize” or poke into that shallow “Silver Platter To Females”, and you’ll miss a host of differences behind the axiom that
“to Western men, we are all Cinderellas by default; to Russian women, you are all Princes by default.”
It’s high time to anatomize the totem of Russian women. Read the rest of this entry »
orks pointed, pans poised! What the matter cooking is, that it provokes so much rattle-battle?
Do Russian Women Cheat? It depends. Female adulteries need a special post, as deflections from norm. Now let’s discuss Russian cultural norms. Before an encouraging conclusion, I must address the part that some Western men interdict as treason (discrediting their reason).
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