Whether you are lucky to deal with a girl who speaks any English, or misfortunate to use a machine translator, these 5 rules would save you and your dates or correspondents a bazillion of nerve cells. The difference in grammars and lexicons may not only prevent understanding, but create quite offensive effects in interpretation.
Read prior to speaking love, appointing visits, and getting too many women! ) Risks range from bad international record to physical revenge. Just don’t ask me to spill the sources of Insider Information translated…
So different by styles, habits and characters, so alike by dreaming of love’s bliss… Here’s a gallery of most vivid female types – and their potential husbands. Call it a set of caricatures that street artists have been fudging anyplace and anytime, changing only markers, - but so far as this article is published in urban reading, let its author refrain from remorse.
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May not different social realities, giving different meanings to similar words, prevent a viable international relationship or create tensions on the way to one.
“Working girl”, for starters, is “what you’ve thought” only in the Western reading. In Russian, emphasizing work means serious attitude to life (yet not obsession with career - the very word given some negative connotation since the Russian Empire, and much stronger in the Soviet Union).
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Responding to discussion on this must-read by Master GL, here’s an overview of, errm, “Russian Woman (TM) Communicator”, from home production to foreign handling.
Beg your tolerance to my debris of radioelectronics )
The first thing that little children are taught here, is to speak truth. Read the rest of this entry »
On comment 42 to this post at GL’s. More on scam schemes here
Hi Rob, I can imagine your confusion. This letter appears controversial as well as authentic. Here are some thoughts I got…
First, considerations natural from a woman’s viewpoint, that usually scare men. Read the rest of this entry »
Even if your could-be-bride is a fan of Mr. Bean, - mimicking his manners won’t make you her hero. In the basics of Russian cultivation, grimaces and physiological manifestations fall under certain censorship.
Which makes this post important beyond romantic contacts. However polished the stranger may be…
Slavic norms of public / interpersonal conduct allow much less natural motions than accustomed abroad (especially in America). Some may be judged as, without much exaggeration, crime against civility! And civility’s one of the first virtues which Foreign Men are given credit for.
…barely awarely. Just with routine American vocabulary. I mean vulgarisms. Words stemming from the pelvic area or loo, such fu(n)kin‘ crap not worth a rat’s ass. Ain’t “anatomy discrimination”: the rest of the body is subject to non-verbal control (see the following post).
Oscar Wilde said, “A gentleman is never unintentionally rude”. A Russian joke extends: “A gentleman would always call a cat a cat, even if he’s stumbled against it and fell down.” And one more: “Surprisingly, researches have proven that blondes prefer gentlemen, too.”
Well-bred or poorly-cultured, FSUnion’ers are snobbish about grammar, lexics and spelling. Whatever Internet forum in Russian, half arguments pinprick opponent’s language over logic. Discussions on emigration and foreign marriages produce longest threads around; and guess what was the longest off-topic I’ve seen there? Russian English-speakers bonewashing “non-BBC” English / American colloquials! Which they judged as a sign of poor education (big disgrace).
“Speak so I could see you”, Socrates said… If Shaw’s Professor Higgins lived in the Internet age, he’d regard the computer screen not as a hiding veil, but as a white handkerchief to find dirt with. Sadly enough, sometimes it can look dung instead of cozy dust.
West vs. East is the clash of Rules vs. Context. Who overdares? Eurasia.
Discussion initiated here at GL’s
Well, in terms of Monty Python-esque samples, “Russians” and especially women are humorless.
You find her hot and this fact is welcome in her culture. Shall you express utter admiration? Answer: No. When all the kin is bred beautiful, and smart, it’s a minefield playground!
That foreign worship of Slav looks is like Indians’ shock at White Man and his utensils. It is rather uncomfortable to be deified for what has been ordinary. On the other part, it’s rather miserable to take occasional scrap for treasures. And rather dangerous to drink “fire water” after generations of abstinence. Read the rest of this entry »
Oh, wanna superweapon? In all plots it lacks the user warning: Strikes Back. If you won her heart, get hitched – or blacklisted, with all your aural Kama Sutra reduced to the crass definition “Brainf***er”.
Well, far before this prospect, many boys plod into the puddle just trying to sway the sword. Read the rest of this entry »
A link to send Russian & Western online friends ;)
Joseph calls it “Girfriend Rule #1”, I call it “Disclaimer”. Always mind the cultural and linguistic differences, added to individual styles!
These innocent phrases in a profile, email, talk (yours or hers) – resemble customary markers of “Co-Dependency” infection (as opposed to wholesome Mutual Treasuring). Keep cool, as you present yourself or hear that woman doing so! Are they mere figures of speech, or configurations of thinking?
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One could say “Even If This Were the Only Book”… Read the rest of this entry »
“Needless for those who’ve understood, useless for those who won’t”…
As the faith, so the reward… World is Mirror, life is what we make & let done with it… He who thinks prostitutes, gets prostitutes. He who thinks noble, gets the noble.
People seem to savor new recipes of food for thought: self-toothed out of mineral tablets, or squeezed, extracted and served with a straw in an occasion-specific glass. So may I entertain you with one more cocktail of playful spirits.
Chefs promise trouble if the vessel is not cleaned. Right. Enroll to this school of international dating, get blacklisted from heaven with virgin angels, and keep spitting into decent people’s borscht. Or listen to Aunt Natalia and take a chance… )
For 1,5 hours a dry-faced Russian man with a slating voice stands amid the empty stage, sight-reading episodes of real life mixed with philosophizing. For 1,5 hours the audience laughs, moans, shrieks, gasps with laughter. Somewhere far away a woman drops the dinnermaking to listen to him on the TV channel that her husband has hopped across to stay at.
He has travelled the globe with recitals for Russian people. And got visa refusals from the USA, Egypt, even Ukraine. Though it’s at Russian folks and authorities that he mocks most. Still, some fellow-countrymen despise him for “mass back-patting propaganda”. Read the rest of this entry »
Guys’ eyes are valuable mirrors. But a Russian Girl ™ can bewitch any guy… not another Russian Girl ™. What may let - and make - the latter help, and whom? Read the rest of this entry »
“Now All Big Smart Boys don’t let us skin them – let us milk them.” Petty pay as you play, and then… you just didn’t match. Russian men call it “Dynamo”, meaning bad-faith “consummation”. What’s ironic is that the “normal” traditional Eastern dating, or e-dating, procedure begins the same way.
The difference is in the result… and in subtlest red flags on the way, which your good auld Natalia’s there to tell.
Greater irony is that man can even feel grateful for every moment of being “used”! These Special Russian Women.™
(Or it takes a special man to choose enlightenment against despair?)
Thank a client who authorized me to tell his story on one finest Dynamo machine business for Ukraine. It looked [almost] innocent for as long as two dozen letters. But “however long a rope weaves, it comes to an end”.
Honestly, we Russian Women hail the US law on men’s police record disclosure. Just look with our eyes, like you can. In fact, it puts American daters a body ahead ALL other nationals! Read the rest of this entry »
These notes address argument about Money vs. Satisfaction and City vs. Province, inspired with the question, whether Russian women are Worshipped or Depreciated at homeland, and if Western environment and Chivalry can “spoil” them. Original thread here at GL’s. Worth reading.
Russians say, “Not in money happiness is” (well, some jocularly add “but in its amount”), and right they are. Culture is what matters, - in all its meanings, including artistic sources of thought and pleasure, active folklore, patterns and manners of human relations, self-discipline, spiritual ideals and fulfilment,.. goals and values that money’s nothing more than a means for.
Pick the role of “Poor Thing’s Prize” or poke into that shallow “Silver Platter To Females”, and you’ll miss a host of differences behind the axiom that
“to Western men, we are all Cinderellas by default; to Russian women, you are all Princes by default.”
It’s high time to anatomize the totem of Russian women. Read the rest of this entry »
orks pointed, pans poised! What the matter cooking is, that it provokes so much rattle-battle?
Jingle Bells! Time for making dreams & pleasant wishes come true for all good boys and girls. A special gift from Father Frost & Snow Maiden: a Place to Meet and Match, made Honest, Safe and Smart for you by Natalia and Joseph!
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This is the overall picture that a local person can observe. A foreigner should keep in mind that “potential international brides” (women he would likely meet or notice) are a specific sampling, with their peculiarities and differences I’m trying to describe.
Do Russian Women Cheat? It depends. Female adulteries need a special post, as deflections from norm. Now let’s discuss Russian cultural norms. Before an encouraging conclusion, I must address the part that some Western men interdict as treason (discrediting their reason).
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“Beauty will Save the World!” To Russian (Ukrainian) women, it’s a slogan for high personal standards, as well as demands. Beauty is a valuable asset, precious to sustain as well. Read the rest of this entry »