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“But I hereby solemnly stipulate to take due diligence to provide valuable contents as I see my effort needed.”

Natalia: No, it is my wry sense of humor, self-ironizing on the legalese background. ) Sorry for another delay in posting, after I’ve promised a load of info on a burning subject. To be continued.

I just love it when a girl reminds a man about the importance of charm. You know, you’re beginning to really
grow on the guys, Natalia. Stop it.

The above post refers primarily to the power of love’s desire to please. And a key sign of more genuine reciprocity of love is when this desire to please is both evident and ongoing for both parties and expressed through the desire to improve … voluntarily.

Recently I have been stunned by the rage in some men who are so abysmally ignorant of love, that they interpret an overt desire to please and bring the best of pleasure to one’s beloved as a sign of loss of male power and obsequiousness. For such socially retarded males, they will then never know the beauty of true weakness of a girl.

For only in full surrender to love, is a man at his most powerful … in the eyes of his girl. And perhaps all who warmly observe him.

Now if only I had written it this way in the original.

Distance and reflection.

Know what I really like about you, Natalia? Not gonna tell you… again.

NOTE: Gentlemen, whenever you wish to continue external discussions on my blog, please kindly provide links to the initial threads, for the convenience of all.

And my couple of cents…

I love these sayings: “Cynicists are made of failed romanticists”, and, “In the same puddle, one man sees mud, another sees the sky”.

Who wants some Russian zen? ) There’s a sweet Soviet cartoon named “The Little Coon“. The Coon can’t bring home any water: he’s scared of Him Who Lives in the Pond, who makes angry faces and waves a stick even bigger than one that the Coon himself carries by the advice of his friend Monkey. Until Mother Racoon suggests that he should bring a smile instead of the stick…

An addendum to the previous post. One which can give some perspective to my wishes for all Russian girls of good heart and desirous of profound and enduring love…

http://russianlove.wordpress.com/tag/real-men-of-the-west/

All the best.

I don’t dare bring up chess again!

Luke’s opinion is that prostitution and sex tourism is the purview of Real men. And I find it entirely naive, and abhorrent.

And yes, how can so young a man be so bitter? In previous posts comments were made in reference to his general angry attitude. Yes, it’s not a happy feeling to be hated by girls who carry such negative purpose in their lives.

And now, boys like Luke, who claim to be representative of Real men, are openly advocating and recommending prostitution and sex tours.

Natalia, as you know from my earlier posts regarding sexual energy systems which increase bonding and pleasure to the maximum, that the empty one-sided sexual practice of prostitution could not be further from my beliefs or from what I would defend is the feminine right of the world’s finest girls.

He is more than his fair share of disingenuous when he compliments you Natalia on your site or your opinions and yet has the audacity to whine that your posts demand too much learning on the part of Western men.

Any good knowledge of Russian girls makes the viability of a personal relationship that much greater and much less stressful or confusing. And for this I’m very grateful.

I certainly will never whine as Luke does that there is too much to learn. I have also heard that all girls are only separated by national flags and different anthems. And again I cannot agree. Russian girls are demonstrably different than Western girls, as you yourself noted in a recent post which makes the distinction clear.

For those who truly understand that to love is to serve, such people consider to give one’s love their best possible selves, is in fact, the finest part of love, its selflessness.

And how can this be achieved without an ever-improving character and life? And how can this be achieved without great information? Obviously it cannot.

The world is filled with people who want something for nothing, who want the finest and most attractive girls, yet who offer “just love me for who I am” in return.

People are compelled by love to give. Only boys take a girl to dinner and calculate their planned later sexual encounter based on how much she costs at dinner. Absolute imbeciles. Russian girls are not cheap trash. They’re truly exceptional.

And of course, there are some whose hearts are filled with cynicism beside their jaded souls. But this is the task in life. To learn who exactly is the one who speaks beside them.

Nothing of value is for free. So obvious it’s redundant. But stunning how so many cannot understand that love of a good woman is the finest part of life.

And no hooker anywhere will give spit for her customer who was inside her ten minutes ago. Because she didn’t give a damn about him when he was in her.

The finest of sexual passion and pleasure is born of love. The greater the love, the more intense the pleasure. Sounds also more than obvious. So why do boys pay for what can never be purchased? Because they are boys looking for a quick fix to their lack of social appeal. And any great book takes a long time and huge energy to write.

And that includes the wonderful book here on this site.

And if the whole mountain is in front of you; then, at least look towards the top while digging your heals in at the bottom.

Somewhere, sometime, when you’re on this climb to your best possible self, truly exceptional girls will start to notice. And yes, even the less fine ones.

How utterly naive to think that a horrible, arrogant foreign man can ever make the truly finest girls in the world happy.

Thanks for your wonderful information. I will only recommend Real men to Russian girls. It’s interesting to see men from this perspective. As if I’m looking for my sister’s mate. And when I do this I understand what all girls do when they themselves are receptive to a relationship.

From my limited experience, when a Russian speaks about any particular issue; an entire smorgasborg of ideas is on the table.

When a Westerner speaks about the same issues, the menu is usually fast food.

Seems what both Real world’s are after is social and personal normalcy and appreciation.

“This is a promise that you’ll meet better women here. This is not a promise that you’ll have better success with them than that you could expect at home.”, Natalia…

Which is why Western men must raise themselves to the challenge. It’s a given that our personal lives are complex and that success is not an automatic process.

I continue to remember mental pictures of Canadian men in exercise clubs… masculine, ambitious, devoted and attentive to their girls, relatively worldly, attractive, materially dependable, considerate, and so on.

And when I do, I wonder why these Real men and their better halves continue to live lost and lonely.

Whatever I can reasonably do to help. Such people of higher caliber would have much more personally rich lives if only they could finally meet. This is beyond a reasonable doubt.

“I would say, a Russian woman is made & worth of same as a Western woman, minus hostility, plus looks, plus need for family, plus self-perfectionism, plus grateful appreciation of all the good in you and from you.”, Natalia…

Yes, there is a heaven on earth.

And may their counterparts find each other.

I’ll keep you posted as to my own “slice of heaven”.

Kind regards.

Guess why FSU women seek or welcome Western men, and why men from the East – even Caucasian-looking, European-educated – have so much lesser comparative success rate in correspondence and travel-dating? If these women’s interest were caused by “lack of men in their own country”, chances would have been even, wouldn’t they?

The notorious demographic gap between men and women here starts at the age of 40 and becomes critical at the age of 60. And when you read the important reservation about the “lack of quality men”, it is not just about health, sobriety, income and non-battering.

We aspire to meet the degree of consideration, care, and also protection that Western women are “entitled to”. Otherwise, why not just grasp at a first passing fellow man of same language, tradition, experience and accommodation? Why, – can you imagine this, – why would we so lightly retreat the Russian men to eager women from Middle Asian FSU republics (who reason that these men are “easier to rule”)?!

Mom heard one of her students say, “My parents (!) raise my sister and myself on American films”. Doing this could never be easier since the 80s when VHS first entered the Soviet Union. Just look at the TV timetables and cinema lists.

What can we see as we watch? Same women – only more loud and scared of intimacy, – with same needs (only enviably independent on elder relatives). Same men with same turnoffs which we don’t want, – but also Men which we dream of. We know “How can she!” from “She can” by the winces of other women (leaning to the more ladylike side), of the people around, and of the gentlemen which the heroines would yearn to hold and regret to lose.

I would say, a Russian woman is made & worth of same as a Western woman, minus hostility, plus looks, plus need for family, plus self-perfectionism, plus grateful appreciation of all the good in you and from you.

My Texan partner Joseph whom I quote here and there – for good reasons of his comprehensive intelligence and experience (married three times, to Americans and to a Russian woman in Siberia) – would make it the first ever advice to the seekers of a Russian or Ukrainian wife:

Remember the best women you’ve ever known in America. Sum up their best features. Now you can imagine a normal Russian woman. This is a promise that you’ll meet better women here. This is not a promise that you’ll have better success with them than that you could expect at home.

And the bottom line… Any fixation, however justifiable, arises a doubt: “Is there anything more about you as a personality?”